So as it happens to be, really good, awesome things can be stressful too. Labor Day weekend, I led a workshop at the Land Of Nod South Coast Plaza store, and taught kids and their parents how to make friendship bracelets. An amazingly awesome opportunity, but one which had me stressed out quite a bit. I tend to worry a bit too much, and when I should have been enjoying the build up of this great event, I was thinking of how it could go wrong.
It turns out though, that everything turned out just perfect.
People showed up, both boys and girls, moms and dads. No beads were flung, no one choked or cut themselves or complained. In fact, people were a downright pleasure to be around, and lovely and gracious and accepted help but at the same time did much of the crafting on their own.
Art brought Taylor and one of her best friends Skylar, to make bracelets together, and they thoroughly enjoyed themselves and I realized just how grown up they’ve become. Working all by themselves, making the most amazingly beautiful designs. Our other good friends Anne and her husband came, along with their cute little boys, and Jules’ whole family came too. It was fun meeting new faces, some who knew me and some who had no idea who I was. But once some familiar faces came in, I felt great. Thanks Anne and Jules for making the effort. I hope you all had fun.
Not only did no beads get turned upside down from rambunctious toddlers, but the creations these kids made, both on their own and with the help of their parents, were seriously impressive. One little 7 year old girl arrived at 10:55 am, eager to craft, and stayed for almost 2 hours, stringing all those tiny sequins one by one by herself. She refused to let her mom help. Her bracelet design was gorgeous. It may sound ridiculous, but seeing young kids have so much patience and focus to complete something so creative and artistic, it seriously gives me goose bumps, and I’ll even admit, when it occurs with my own kids, it brings tears to my eyes.
It may seem so simplistic and ordinary, but these little moments of encouraging kids to be creative, teaches them so much in terms of confidence, independence, design, creativity, not to mention the sheer amount of fine motor skill dexterity practice they get when stringing bead after bead after bead. Real life teaching moments in action, for sure.
I’ve been asked lots of times over the years, how I put up with the messes kids make when they craft, how I keep my patience, how I hold their attention. My only advice is to try and start from a young age, and only do one thing at a time. Kids will want to bring out the contents of the entire craft cabinet in the course of a day. But we’ve always had a rule that we put one project away before we start another.
Other than that, kids are kids and messes are inevitable. You can either direct them to produce a controlled mess, like a craft project, or let them make messes on their own by giving them free play. Either way, a mess will be made. Personally, I would rather have a mess from a creative project than a mess they’ve cooked up because they were left undirected in their room for an hour. And p.s., I’m not mother of the year here. My kids make plenty of both messes because our life is not one constant, ongoing arts and crafts project. I just much more prefer craft project messes over say, Lego messes.
Andrea Howe is the writer of For The Love Of, a blog dedicated to modern approachable style. She is wife to one, mother to three, and one lover of style. She spends her days chasing her kids around, taking pictures of them on her phone, cooking, making messes during DIY sessions, reading, blogging, and devising a way to get her dream craft room some day. She is also a regular contributor atDisney Baby where she shares inspiring stories of life with baby.